Women often complain that men don’t have the ability to share their feelings and convey themselves in a genuine and clear way. It is one of the signs of a strong and emotionally intimate bond. In the absence of the expression of feeling, relationship is based on what you perceive as he is thinking and not thinking, unless you have the ability to read his mind.
In the beginning of the relationship, people share information about themselves in a cautious way. However, there should be a point when the information about the present and past must progress into sharing feelings about those events, their desires and dreams about the future. If the relationship does not evolve to sharing, the relationship deteriorates and does not grow.
So, the question is how to use the secret obsession phrases to get a man to express and share his feelings without forcing him or making him feel that he cannot give you the desired emotional intimacy.
The idea is to assist him into expressing himself without causing him to feel that he does not live up to your expectations. You should start with the comfort level of expression he currently have and move forward. It may seem simple but you should not expect too much too soon. Determine the subjects he is more open about in talking about such as work, family, friends, sports, his past and then move ahead from there.
If he can talk comfortably about his feelings and opinions on basketball or football players, simply engage him in that area. You should let him get use to expressing his feelings about sports to you. Once he can talk about one topic easily you can introduce the next topic. Ensure that the topic is not linked with his emotionally precarious position and try to be open. Don’t use deceit; rather talk about the new topic with the same openness you gave to sports.
Use these steps to shape his sharing with you. It does not require months or years rather you can do it within few weeks as long as you meet him four to five times a week. If you are in a long distance relationship, you would need more time. When you see him four to five times weekly, you can accomplish this in few weeks but do respect his pace to move ahead.
Once he is comfortable talking about non-threatening topics you can move to subjects that are more sensitive for him. Don’t ask him upfront whether he loves you as it will scare him. Rather, express your feelings without an expectation of a response. Tell him you enjoyed the afternoon with him or that you view your relationship with him worth keeping.
Make sure to give him space and time as you are asking him to develop and grow which takes time. He is inexpressive as it is too difficult for him or because he is uncomfortable sharing. When you take it easy it gives him time to express himself. Keep in mind that he may not say what you really expected.